Relationships, by nature, are not easy. In fact, they are about as difficult to maintain as anything in the world. You know why? Because we are all humans, and with that comes a lot of emotions that influence how we think, what we do, how we react.
Those things determine how we function in a relationship.
And that leads us to what this book is about: determining if you have the right mate in your life and how to maintain or restart the excitement that brought you together in the first place.
For the last several years, I have spoken to thousands and thousands of listeners who called in to my nationally syndicated radio show, “The Sweat Hotel.”
Reaching 1.4 million people a night through the airways means we span the country, and discover that relationship issues have no boundaries.
It does not matter where you live, how old you are, what your profession, your Zodiac sign, your sex, your religion, how much hair you have, what your complexion is, what your education background, the color of your eyes, if you have dandruff or not…We all have them. Seriously.
We have discussed every imaginable scenario and situation; and some neither you nor I could possibly have expected. We have found solutions more times than not, grown as people, comforted each other and generally learned a lot about ourselves—and how to be better mates in relationships.
It is not an exact science. In fact, it is not a science at all. This relationship thing very much is an emotionally charged, reaction-based dilemma that cannot be solved, only managed.
This book is called Make It Last Forever, like the hit song I recorded that became a national anthem for relationships around the world. The idea is to provide insight, tips, messages, ideas, hints, remedies…anything that will help you find the right mate for you and/or sustain your relationship. And that’s what we do here. But here’s the rub: This is no gimmick. This is not superficial advice. This is keeping it real at its realest.
And the reality is that some scenarios you will relate to and learn from, or at least see things from a different perspective. In other cases, you might be shocked someone has ever gone through particular scenarios or needed an outside source to consult. That’s the enormity of it all: Everyone’s experiences are different. But we all share a common bond: Our experiences shape our thinking, reactions and even our emotions—optimism, pessimism, hope, hopelessness—about love and relationships.
I can hear some of you whispering now: Why has he written this book? What makes him qualified? Legitimate questions. The answer is multi-fold: For one, I have experienced just about all aspects of relationships. I have had girlfriends, been married, been divorced, cheated on women, been cheated on by women, been in love when it really wasn’t love, and been in love when it was true love. That spectrum of experience affords me an insight that has instilled a level-headed perspective.
Also, for the last several years, as I mentioned, I have spoken to thousands of people about relationships for three hours a night—probably more than anyone in the country. My radio show has been a virtual and figurative couch for countless listeners who have discussed their concerns with me. That incredibly deep well is the inspiration for the book—I know for a fact there are millions of people seeking direction in their relationships and lives.
Lastly, I have made my career on relationships. My music has touched people, inspired people and, I’m told, has even accounted for some babies. So, it is an area that is important to me. Relationships are really the foundation of our existence. They are what make us go—or not go. When we are in good, healthy relationships, we go about our daily lives in such a euphoric state that it can make haters hate because they do not have what we have.
At the same time, when our relationships are floundering, we feel less than what we should. Our mood is noticeably different, sour even, and we seem to expect less out of life.
That’s why it is important that we establish strong, healthy relationships and/or build on relationships we already have.
Make It Last Forever is designed to help you do that very thing. We will examine many different obstacles that must be overcome, dispositions that have to be taken, adjustments that have to be made that will enhance your relationships—and we will keep it real and have fun throughout the entire journey.